Relationships do not come with a how-to manual. But maybe, things would go smoother if they did. We do ourselves and those around us a disservice by not understanding that we have some basic rights and responsibilities when it comes to how we act and what we expect in our relationships. The following are some guidelines compiled from other supportive sources.
To be treated with respect
To be in a healthy relationship
To not be abused in any way
To enjoy friends and activities apart from my partner
To express myself honestly
To recognize and practice my culture and identities
To determine my values and set limits
To decide what I share and with whom
To say no
To feel safe in relationships
To be treated as an equal
To feel comfortable being myself
To leave or stay in a relationship
To suggest activities or refuse activities.
To speak up when I think my partner’s actions or language are unfair or hurtful.
To refuse physical touch with anyone, at any time and for any reason.
To leave the relationship.
To have my privacy respected, including rights to private conversation, phone calls, text messages, social media
Just as you and your partner have rights in a relationship you also have responsibilities. You have obligations to that relationship that you must abide by and provide. If you are unwilling or unable to abide by a persons rights and provide your responsibilities you need to change immediately or get out of the relation.
To determine and communicate my limits and my values
To respect my partner’s limits, values and emotions
To accept my partner’s culture and identity
To not abuse
To actively listen
To be considerate
To communicate clearly, truthfully and with respect
To give my partner space to participate in activities and with friends outside of our relationship
To not exert power or control in relationships
To compromise when needed without being passive
To admit to being wrong when you are
To ask for help
To own my actions and feelings
To make sure the choices you make are healthy for you
To respect the privacy of others, including their rights to private conversations, phone calls, text messages, social networking activities, emails, etc.